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The Big Blog Post on: How to Date Yourself

torvehallerne_2017_lowres (12 of 77)Three years ago I was in a really bad relationship and I had lost all my confidence. My life had started to revolve around this other person, and somewhere along the way, I lost myself and my independence. The only thing I wanted was to be what he wanted me to be, even if that meant not being me. When I look back I wish I could have shaken myself and told myself to leave, comforted myself and convinced myself that I was good enough and didn’t need the acceptance of this other person who called me socially awkward and was never really truly available. I wish I had been enough for myself.

So when the relationship finally ended, I was suddenly left without a core identity, as he had been the source of my feeling of self for so many years now, that I’d forgotten who I really was. I was just starting therapy at this point and was told by my therapist that I needed to get to know myself again and learn to be alone. I was super co-dependent and my anxiety went off the scale the moment he moved out. I had no idea how to be alone or be in my own company. So, like many others before me, I turned to Google and typed in things like “how to be alone” “how to find yourself” and “what to do after a breakup”, and guess what, Google delivered. I found an article called “Date Yourself” and it was just what I was looking for (I can’t find the original article, but if you google it there are tons of articles out there). It said something along the lines that for you to become truly independent, whether or not you’re in a relationship, you have to date yourself before you date anyone else. That made SO much sense to me. It said to treat yourself like you would a beloved partner, take yourself out and do the things you would normally do on a date or with your partner, only do it alone.

This whole concept seemed so extremely terrifying to me that I almost didn’t go through with it, but somehow I managed to pull myself out of my misery one day, and went out alone for the first time. It was something simple, very simple, and I didn’t get through it without a panic attack and a bit of post-breakup crying, but I did do it! I’d gone to a department store food section and bought myself a fancy dessert to bring home. I’ll never forget that feeling, picking one out (pear trifle with chocolate mousse), and going to the register only holding the dessert.  I hadn’t bought anything for anyone else like I usually would. Just for me and for no other reason than to be kind to myself, to treat myself and to date myself. It was such a strange feeling and I cried on the train home on the phone to my mom, holding my little dessert. At home, I put on a movie, snuggled up with a blanket and ate my pear trifle. And it felt good. It felt so liberating that I could hardly believe it, and I was overwhelmed with pride and hope.

torvehallerne_2017_lowres (19 of 77)This was the first time of many I did this, and I still do it to this day. I’m in a wonderful relationship with a man I truly love and who loves me for me, but I will never again lose my ability to be alone and to be good to myself. So every now and again, weekly, almost daily to be honest, I do something alone that the old me wouldn’t have. I go to markets, go have a fancy brunch, travel somewhere far with my camera, make a delicious lunch, paint ceramics, and so many other things. I do them now and I don’t think twice about it. I don’t need to have friends with me all the time either. I’m perfectly happy sitting alone and just enjoying my own company. I recently went to a Mexican buffet place alone and the waiters were so baffled by my aloneness that they kept coming over to see if I needed cheering up. I told Daryl in a text so for the fun of it he video called me and I put the phone opposite me on the table. The waiters saw and started laughing and told us how cute we were on our virtual date. That was a lovely day and a lovely memory.

But now for the practical part. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not, if you’re moving away from home, getting your own apartment or relocating to a new city. Knowing how to be happily alone is so important for your wellbeing and your self-worth. Not all people will be comfortable eating alone at a table service restaurant full of happy couples, but once you finally manage to enjoy your own company, man does that feel good! I can’t recommend it enough! Regardless of your relationship status, give yourself some attention and take yourself out on your dream date.

torvehallerne_2017_lowres (8 of 77)How to date yourself

  • Dress up like you’re going out with your dream guy. Make yourself feel so damn pretty and cute that you can’t help but smile when you look in the mirror. And do it for you and you alone! You don’t need to dress to fit anyone’s opinion but your own.
  • For your first time, pick a smaller event so you don’t end up with a full-blown anxiety attack with tons of people watching, as that can lead to you not wanting to do it again. Just go buy yourself a nice fancy dessert and bring it home and eat it while you’re wearing your favorite cozy socks. Pick the dessert YOU want, no matter how indulgent that may feel. Get the salted caramel eclair from that French place you always pass by but never walk into. You deserve it!
  • Go places where you usually wouldn’t go alone, be it a dinner at a restaurant, going to see a movie, or traveling far away. The point is to really push yourself to get out of your comfort zone and ENJOY it. Make it your own and revel in your own wants and needs. I once went to New York alone for 8 days. It was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. I cried the whole way there on both planes and was hiding in my hoodie when a nice guy next to me on the first plane asked if I was going to New York too. We started chatting and he and his friend ended up guiding me through Heathrow airport so we didn’t miss our connecting plane as well as sharing a cab once we landed in JFK. It was such a good feeling, meeting people, opening up, doing this thing on my own that enabled me to discover kindness in others. I still have them on Facebook and this was five years ago. The trip itself was so insane, running from museum to museum, grabbing cabs alone, going to cafes on my own and getting all the cakes I wanted. It was REALLY scary, but it taught me a lot about myself and what I’m capable of.
  • Tailor your environment to fit you. Decorate the way you want, spend lots of time on your self-care routine, choose the movies and shows that you love and binge watch them and eat that super rich garlic pasta that you never wanted to eat before because you worried about your breath.
  • Make yourself a priority by scheduling time to do the things you love. Don’t forget yourself in piles of work, friend dates, boys and tinder swipes. Don’t feel guilty about not going to a party or not showing up to your parent’s Friday dinner. Stay in tune with yourself and really feel what you want to do and allow yourself to make decisions based on that and not on what other people would want you to do.
  • Get really nerdy about your interests! This is one of my favorites! In my old relationship, I’d always let the other person come first. If he wanted to play a game on the TV I’d give up the show I was watching. If he wanted me to WATCH HIM PLAY THE STUPID GAME I’d put down my artwork and stop painting, just so he could tell me about all the game mechanics he liked. I no longer push my interests aside for anyone, but instead, I delve deep into them and really enjoy every minute of whatever I’m doing because I’m doing it for ME. I’m spending so much time on photography tutorials, watching Black Mirror, blogging, and my friends, and at no point do I allow myself to feel guilty of that. Guilty of not spending all my moments on someone else, but instead on me and what I love to do. It feels great and it’s how it should be. You shouldn’t have to give yourself up to be with someone.
  • Learn something new, take up a new hobby, learn a language, learn how to sew. It doesn’t matter, but I’m sure we all have things we’ve all wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to for whatever reason. Doing these things feels SO good because you’re finally being true to you and your desire to excel at something and learn. I’m practicing how to take pictures, that’s my thing right now. I’m also going to learn how to paint and draw and I’m even looking at classes and I’m going to go alone!

torvehallerne_2017_lowres (11 of 77)There are many ways to date yourself, just google and you’ll find tons of ideas, but the most important thing is that you’re making your life about you and not someone else, be that a partner, a parent, a friend. It doesn’t matter, as long as you shift your focus from everyone else’s happiness onto achieving your own. If you know how to be happily alone your heart will blossom in knowing that you are being true to yourself and choosing yourself. It really is the best and most empowering feeling!

Love always,

Honey

PS. All these photos are from Torvehallerne in Copenhagen, where I took myself on a little date to buy delicious French pastries with walnuts and caramel.

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6 thoughts on “The Big Blog Post on: How to Date Yourself”

  1. Alicja says:
    03/02/2018 at 03:31

    I love this blogpost Honey! I’m so happy that you’re where you’re at today and embracing self-care. I’ll be taking some of your tips and having a me day in between my often busy schedule.

    Reply
    1. HoneyAimee says:
      04/02/2018 at 17:50

      I’m so happy to hear that! It’s so important with some me time 😀 Thank you!!

      Reply
  2. Ghayda says:
    01/02/2018 at 20:31

    Oh I’m sad you’ve been in tough situation bug it’s okay I’ve been in it too so I can feel what you’re feeling and still do suffer from stuff these days but I’m glad that you’re happy now hope you always be you’re more brave than I will ever be btw you and Daryl look so cute. Stay safe love you ?

    Reply
    1. HoneyAimee says:
      04/02/2018 at 17:49

      Thank you so much! I’m in a much better place now and it feels good to be open about it. 😀

      Reply
  3. Anna says:
    01/02/2018 at 20:15

    That is so beautiful written & inspiring. Thank you !

    Reply
    1. HoneyAimee says:
      04/02/2018 at 17:49

      Thank you so much for reading and for the compliment! 😀

      Reply

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I spend A LOT on groceries though. I buy a new batch of fresh veggies and fruit every week and I eat loads of it to be healthy and also cook many meals for baby N. Right now she's rejecting all of my meals and only wants to eat strawberries. I can't say I blame her (despite the TikTok worm videos from last year). 🍓

This picture is from @frilandsmuseet and I miss it so so much! I wish I could go and have the whole place to myself to finally breathe without worrying about corona. But hopefully with the vaccine coming this summer, it won't be long until I introduce my baby to my favorite place ❤️
With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

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Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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I edited an image! Wow! It was sooo nice. It's bee I edited an image! Wow! It was sooo nice. It's been ages and ages. It's one of the things that relaxes me the most, so to find time to do it again was amazing! I usually spend a lot longer than I did on this one, but I'm not going to play the instagram game so it doesn't matter. I must say, being off IG has been very good for my mental health. There are a lot of things I miss, but there are also things I really don't miss. The algorithm, having to try and figure out how to beat the algorithm, measuring myself by my followers and shopping things just for the gram. I haven't bought anything for myself for about a year. Only stuff for baby girl and groceries. Hair dye once and a few t-shirts for my new body. 

I spend A LOT on groceries though. I buy a new batch of fresh veggies and fruit every week and I eat loads of it to be healthy and also cook many meals for baby N. Right now she's rejecting all of my meals and only wants to eat strawberries. I can't say I blame her (despite the TikTok worm videos from last year). 🍓

This picture is from @frilandsmuseet and I miss it so so much! I wish I could go and have the whole place to myself to finally breathe without worrying about corona. But hopefully with the vaccine coming this summer, it won't be long until I introduce my baby to my favorite place ❤️
With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

#happyhalloween #phantommanor #disneylandparis #spookyseason #hauntedhouse #kodak #1992
Happy Monday! 🍁 . . I've spent the weekend gett Happy Monday! 🍁
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I've spent the weekend getting things out to finally decorate for autumn. I'm later than usual as I have no energy. My hormones are whack and I've been sick several times a day. My hair is falling out again, but that was expected. Daryl's going to try and cut it short, as I can't go outside to see my hairdresser. I'm sure I'll end up with something...interesting 🙈 I'm just so tired so we've been binging Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's a show that I missed back in the 90s, and it's great for the season. Back then I was too hooked on Dawson's Creek to care about anything else. 😂 What's your current binge? ❤️ #teampaceyforever
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#fallvibes #fromthegarden #artofvisuals #nature_obsession #natureaddict #autumncolors #botanicalpickmeup #quietinthewild #gifted #thatsdarling #gingerhair #vintageinspired #90sbaby #anneofgreengables #gingerhair #gingergirl #fallishere #autumnvibes🍁 #falliscoming
Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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We're still debating whether or not to even share our baby's name outside our circle of family and friends. Social media culture is really not made for respecting a child's privacy, and it's difficult to decide when to share and when not to. I'm curious how you all feel about our current share-all culture? I'm a very open person so it's a new dilemma for me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 
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Anyway, hope you are all well and I'm glad to be updating a bit more now. I'm reading messages soon, but I'm having some pains in my joints so typing is difficult. ❤️
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#nature_obsession #artofvisuals #nature_seekers #capturequiet #gingergirl #darlingmovement #gingerhair #natureaddict #myquietbeauty #aseasonalshift #thatsdarling #bookishgirl #vintageinspired #vintagestyle #darlingscapes #quietinthewild #myseasonalstory #littleredridinghood #ridinghood #fairytale #redhood #fairy #redhead #wildflowers
I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've a I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've actually sold half of them, but I've kept all my favorites. I love being able to turn myself into whoever I visualize in the stories I tell with my photos. It's not always a ginger girl that I want. 😄
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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What do you mommies out there do? How do you juggle it all? ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #fairytale #firsttimemom #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #wiglife #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #vintageinspiredfashion
I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long h I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long hair for my post partum hair loss period. It's already looking terrible, thin and dry. What do you guys think?
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#hairloss #telogeneffluvium #mentalhealth #redhead #curlygirl #mymentalhealthjourney #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #vintagestyle #postpartumhairloss
One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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#slowliving #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #aseasonalshift #fox #autumngirl #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #myseasonalstyle #myseasonalstory #igers_copenhagen #frodobaggins #liveauthentic #nordic #earthytones #lordoftherings #frodo #slowandsimpledays #inspiredbynature_ #alliseeispretty #calm_collected #seeingthepretty #beautyyouseek #theslowdowncollective #gloomandglow #myeverydaymagic #beautyofstillmoments
Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new home when the pandemic hit, so we've had to put that on pause for now, but the dream is to live near the city, but in nature. One thing I envy is when I see people who have direct access to a forest or a lovely garden, and I very much want my baby to grow up having that. 😍
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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Do you have a place like this that just got stuck in your heart to the point where you can't imagine not having it in your life?
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PS. This pic is not from Frilandsmuseet. .
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#farmhousehome #farmhouseinspired #styleinfluencers #fashioninfluencers #thehappygardeninglife #hairinspo #inspire_me_home_decor #interiorinspo #interiorstyling #interiorstyle #nothingisordinary #pursuepretty #thatauthenthicfeeling #thehappynow
One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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What things from your childhoods stand out the most as happy memories? ❤️ .
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#lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper u Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper update, and I have so many thoughts to share that I would normally have shared over the course of weeks. This photo is an oldie from a wonderful outing with Daryl - before my hair loss, before my weight loss, before getting pregnant and before lockdown. It seems like a million years ago. It's an important picture to me because it's ordinary. No real posing or planning, no fancy dresses, just me and Daryl out on our bikes exploring a new area. .
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Days like these are far away and this version of myself is long gone. I'm in a cocoon now, and soon I can call myself a post partum butterfly for the rest of my life. My hair loss will come back, I'll have to lose weight again, my body will be broken and need mending, time and rest, my mind will have to get used to a completely new life, and most important of all, I'll have a tiny new human to take care of who'll be dependant on me and her dad. .
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It's strange to be in this period of transition, sharing my body and heart with this little being in my belly, while at the same time the world around me is also changing. Nothing is certain anymore and the future is completely unpredictable. .
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This is a time of change for me, and I've never been good with change. Not being able to take my photos has also been difficult, as it's something I'm passionate about and didn't expect to have to give up so soon. But, the thing I keep reminding myself of is, that life IS change. Nothing ever stays the same, and wouldn't it be boring if it did? I don't know what's going to happen down the road, but I know that I'm with the most loving caring man I could ever dream of and that we're finally going to have the little baby girl we've been imagining for so so long, and I absolutely can't wait. Four more weeks folks! And we still don't have a name 😂 Last chance to suggest one in the comments! ❤️ .
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#socialdistancing #changeyourmindset #lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ri A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ring that I always wear was stuck on my finger. Another wonderful side effect of pregnancy. I managed to get it off and put it away, but as it is very special to me it was a hard pill to swallow. I don't really wear jewelry so when I do it is only something really special. .
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In these days of quarantine I've been wearing my flower rings from @goodafternine a lot more, since I can't get out to see real flowers. It's been cheering me up, so I'm sad that water retention is going to ruin that. Also, you should see my feet! They look like they were injected with botox 😂
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@goodafternine is one of the wonderful companies that will be affected by the quarantine, but they still ship out and they still make the happiest accessories that reminds you of spring and color. This is one of my favorite small companies which is why I want to share a picture of my favorite ring from them that I took last year when they gifted me my four favorites. I hope you love them as much as I do. ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #jewelrygram #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #purplehair #rainbowflowers #gifted #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #happyrgirl #besthair  #fairytale #pastelhair #lilachair #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #daisy #goodafternine #gfndarlings
Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷 . . Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷
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Last year I dressed up as the Easter bunny, much to the delight of the children that walked past me on the street. Once my baby's born Dina from @feltstream.dina.ivanova will help me make sure that I can turn into all the fairytale animals that my little girl will come across. I'm especially looking forward to being a bear from Goldie Locks and the Wolf from red Riding Hood. My girl will get to be the heroine 😄 What other fairy tale animals should Dina and I plan out?
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Also remember that during the quarantine days, it's important to support all our favorite small businesses so they can make it through this chaos. I'll keep sharing them and I hope we can all support each other and get safely to the other side. ✨✨✨
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#sondeflor #gifted #supportsmallbusinesses #sondeflorclassicdress #linen #linendress #easter #peterrabbit #beatrixpotter #easterbunny #lilac #vintagestyle #vintageinspired #redhead #redhair #gingerhair #slowliving #alittlebeautyeveryday #everydaypoetry #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #gingergirl #auburnhair #gingerlove #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #thatsdarlingmovement #mysondeflor
I edited an image! Wow! It was sooo nice. It's bee I edited an image! Wow! It was sooo nice. It's been ages and ages. It's one of the things that relaxes me the most, so to find time to do it again was amazing! I usually spend a lot longer than I did on this one, but I'm not going to play the instagram game so it doesn't matter. I must say, being off IG has been very good for my mental health. There are a lot of things I miss, but there are also things I really don't miss. The algorithm, having to try and figure out how to beat the algorithm, measuring myself by my followers and shopping things just for the gram. I haven't bought anything for myself for about a year. Only stuff for baby girl and groceries. Hair dye once and a few t-shirts for my new body. 

I spend A LOT on groceries though. I buy a new batch of fresh veggies and fruit every week and I eat loads of it to be healthy and also cook many meals for baby N. Right now she's rejecting all of my meals and only wants to eat strawberries. I can't say I blame her (despite the TikTok worm videos from last year). 🍓

This picture is from @frilandsmuseet and I miss it so so much! I wish I could go and have the whole place to myself to finally breathe without worrying about corona. But hopefully with the vaccine coming this summer, it won't be long until I introduce my baby to my favorite place ❤️
With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

#happyhalloween #phantommanor #disneylandparis #spookyseason #hauntedhouse #kodak #1992
Happy Monday! 🍁 . . I've spent the weekend gett Happy Monday! 🍁
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I've spent the weekend getting things out to finally decorate for autumn. I'm later than usual as I have no energy. My hormones are whack and I've been sick several times a day. My hair is falling out again, but that was expected. Daryl's going to try and cut it short, as I can't go outside to see my hairdresser. I'm sure I'll end up with something...interesting 🙈 I'm just so tired so we've been binging Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's a show that I missed back in the 90s, and it's great for the season. Back then I was too hooked on Dawson's Creek to care about anything else. 😂 What's your current binge? ❤️ #teampaceyforever
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#fallvibes #fromthegarden #artofvisuals #nature_obsession #natureaddict #autumncolors #botanicalpickmeup #quietinthewild #gifted #thatsdarling #gingerhair #vintageinspired #90sbaby #anneofgreengables #gingerhair #gingergirl #fallishere #autumnvibes🍁 #falliscoming
Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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We're still debating whether or not to even share our baby's name outside our circle of family and friends. Social media culture is really not made for respecting a child's privacy, and it's difficult to decide when to share and when not to. I'm curious how you all feel about our current share-all culture? I'm a very open person so it's a new dilemma for me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 
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Anyway, hope you are all well and I'm glad to be updating a bit more now. I'm reading messages soon, but I'm having some pains in my joints so typing is difficult. ❤️
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#nature_obsession #artofvisuals #nature_seekers #capturequiet #gingergirl #darlingmovement #gingerhair #natureaddict #myquietbeauty #aseasonalshift #thatsdarling #bookishgirl #vintageinspired #vintagestyle #darlingscapes #quietinthewild #myseasonalstory #littleredridinghood #ridinghood #fairytale #redhood #fairy #redhead #wildflowers
I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've a I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've actually sold half of them, but I've kept all my favorites. I love being able to turn myself into whoever I visualize in the stories I tell with my photos. It's not always a ginger girl that I want. 😄
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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What do you mommies out there do? How do you juggle it all? ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #fairytale #firsttimemom #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #wiglife #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #vintageinspiredfashion
I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long h I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long hair for my post partum hair loss period. It's already looking terrible, thin and dry. What do you guys think?
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#hairloss #telogeneffluvium #mentalhealth #redhead #curlygirl #mymentalhealthjourney #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #vintagestyle #postpartumhairloss
One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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#slowliving #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #aseasonalshift #fox #autumngirl #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #myseasonalstyle #myseasonalstory #igers_copenhagen #frodobaggins #liveauthentic #nordic #earthytones #lordoftherings #frodo #slowandsimpledays #inspiredbynature_ #alliseeispretty #calm_collected #seeingthepretty #beautyyouseek #theslowdowncollective #gloomandglow #myeverydaymagic #beautyofstillmoments
Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new home when the pandemic hit, so we've had to put that on pause for now, but the dream is to live near the city, but in nature. One thing I envy is when I see people who have direct access to a forest or a lovely garden, and I very much want my baby to grow up having that. 😍
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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Do you have a place like this that just got stuck in your heart to the point where you can't imagine not having it in your life?
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PS. This pic is not from Frilandsmuseet. .
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#farmhousehome #farmhouseinspired #styleinfluencers #fashioninfluencers #thehappygardeninglife #hairinspo #inspire_me_home_decor #interiorinspo #interiorstyling #interiorstyle #nothingisordinary #pursuepretty #thatauthenthicfeeling #thehappynow
One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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What things from your childhoods stand out the most as happy memories? ❤️ .
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#lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper u Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper update, and I have so many thoughts to share that I would normally have shared over the course of weeks. This photo is an oldie from a wonderful outing with Daryl - before my hair loss, before my weight loss, before getting pregnant and before lockdown. It seems like a million years ago. It's an important picture to me because it's ordinary. No real posing or planning, no fancy dresses, just me and Daryl out on our bikes exploring a new area. .
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Days like these are far away and this version of myself is long gone. I'm in a cocoon now, and soon I can call myself a post partum butterfly for the rest of my life. My hair loss will come back, I'll have to lose weight again, my body will be broken and need mending, time and rest, my mind will have to get used to a completely new life, and most important of all, I'll have a tiny new human to take care of who'll be dependant on me and her dad. .
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It's strange to be in this period of transition, sharing my body and heart with this little being in my belly, while at the same time the world around me is also changing. Nothing is certain anymore and the future is completely unpredictable. .
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This is a time of change for me, and I've never been good with change. Not being able to take my photos has also been difficult, as it's something I'm passionate about and didn't expect to have to give up so soon. But, the thing I keep reminding myself of is, that life IS change. Nothing ever stays the same, and wouldn't it be boring if it did? I don't know what's going to happen down the road, but I know that I'm with the most loving caring man I could ever dream of and that we're finally going to have the little baby girl we've been imagining for so so long, and I absolutely can't wait. Four more weeks folks! And we still don't have a name 😂 Last chance to suggest one in the comments! ❤️ .
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#socialdistancing #changeyourmindset #lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ri A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ring that I always wear was stuck on my finger. Another wonderful side effect of pregnancy. I managed to get it off and put it away, but as it is very special to me it was a hard pill to swallow. I don't really wear jewelry so when I do it is only something really special. .
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In these days of quarantine I've been wearing my flower rings from @goodafternine a lot more, since I can't get out to see real flowers. It's been cheering me up, so I'm sad that water retention is going to ruin that. Also, you should see my feet! They look like they were injected with botox 😂
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@goodafternine is one of the wonderful companies that will be affected by the quarantine, but they still ship out and they still make the happiest accessories that reminds you of spring and color. This is one of my favorite small companies which is why I want to share a picture of my favorite ring from them that I took last year when they gifted me my four favorites. I hope you love them as much as I do. ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #jewelrygram #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #purplehair #rainbowflowers #gifted #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #happyrgirl #besthair  #fairytale #pastelhair #lilachair #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #daisy #goodafternine #gfndarlings
Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷 . . Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷
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Last year I dressed up as the Easter bunny, much to the delight of the children that walked past me on the street. Once my baby's born Dina from @feltstream.dina.ivanova will help me make sure that I can turn into all the fairytale animals that my little girl will come across. I'm especially looking forward to being a bear from Goldie Locks and the Wolf from red Riding Hood. My girl will get to be the heroine 😄 What other fairy tale animals should Dina and I plan out?
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Also remember that during the quarantine days, it's important to support all our favorite small businesses so they can make it through this chaos. I'll keep sharing them and I hope we can all support each other and get safely to the other side. ✨✨✨
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#sondeflor #gifted #supportsmallbusinesses #sondeflorclassicdress #linen #linendress #easter #peterrabbit #beatrixpotter #easterbunny #lilac #vintagestyle #vintageinspired #redhead #redhair #gingerhair #slowliving #alittlebeautyeveryday #everydaypoetry #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #gingergirl #auburnhair #gingerlove #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #thatsdarlingmovement #mysondeflor
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