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The Big Blog Post on: Expectation vs. Reality

aquarium_2017_lowres (18 of 36)I’m one of those people who create scenarios in my head, and when real life fails to live up to those scenarios I get confused, stumped, and don’t know what to say or do or how to handle the situation. You’re going on vacation and you have all these fantasies about how amazing and magical it’s going to be, but in reality, you end up with the flu, have a huge fight with your travel partner, and it turns out to be a national holiday and everything is closed. And then you just shut down because you were just not prepared for it. You didn’t expect it or plan for it. The version in your head didn’t come true and your anxiety hits you like a giant punch in your gut.

I’m a planner and for the reasons above, it’s actually a bit of an issue. So, for the last six months, I’ve been trying to not plan events and to let go of control in order to not set myself up to get disappointed and confused by an unpredicted situation. My therapist says I might have traits from a condition called OCPD, so that doesn’t help things.

aquarium_2017_lowres (7 of 36)Last Mother’s Day I invited my mom to go with us to the aquarium, as she’d been wanting to go for ages. This is going to be a personal story and a bit difficult to share, but part of why I’m writing this blog is to learn to be open about my feelings and the things I find difficult in life in hopes that it will help others feel less alone with their own struggles. Anyway, Daryl and I met up with her and went to the aquarium, and already on the way there, did things not live up to my expectations. My mom smokes, I don’t, and I wanted to get there early to beat the lines so we wouldn’t have to wait for ages to get in(control), but she kept stopping to smoke and it irked me. As it turned out, there were no lines. My stress was unfounded.

Then when we got in I pulled her to the touch pool as I’d imagined her excitement at getting to touch a sea star and a crab. But when we got there she didn’t want to. Instead, she was fiddling with her camera that wouldn’t work, and getting quite stressed and irritated. This, in turn, made me irritated (the moment was not living up to my expectations).

aquarium_2017_lowres (2 of 36)As it turned out, my expectation of a mother/daughter day out was not going to happen, and my mom’s expectation of a day spent behind her camera wasn’t going well either as her battery died. We each had completely different ideas about how we wanted the day to be, and I ended up very sad and felt rejected. My mom hardly spoke to me as she’s the kind of person who can get so caught up with her interests and what’s in her own head, that the people she’s with will fade into the background. I tried to make the most of the day and had a really good time with Daryl. And my mom did join in now and then when she wasn’t fiddling with her camera.

Daryl pulled me outside at one point where they had a little dock where you could try out a fishing rod. I’d never done it before and trying it now was totally off-script and not part of my original plan for the day. Trying something new always scares me a bit. But once Daryl helped me and showed me what to do, I started to have fun, and it was actually the best moment of the whole day: that unexpected, unplanned, spontaneous moment. I laughed and giggled and at that moment my mom’s lack of participation didn’t matter because I chose a different path and a different mindset.

aquarium_2017_lowres (31 of 36)Looking back, there were definitely things I could have done differently. I would be hurt regardless, but it would have been less painful if I hadn’t had an idealized fantasy about the day from the getgo. If I hadn’t tried to control it or expect anything from it. Changing my attitude at the end of it made it better, I relaxed more and gave into the situation and focused the positive things. We saw some cute otters being fed, we had fish ‘n’ chips (however morbid that is to eat in an aquarium), we took silly photos and I coerced a butterfly onto my nose by putting sugar there. All in all, a good day.

Family can be a difficult and painful subject, but that’s not the point of this story. This is all about letting go and realizing that there’s a difference between expectations and reality and that by letting go of your expectations and your control, the situation can actually be allowed to surprise you and you can truly be in the moment and enjoy it without ruining it for yourself.

aquarium_2017_lowres (23 of 36)So if you’re struggling with perfectionism, high expectations or excessive planning where you can be strongly disappointed, try these things:

  • Do the things you really want to do, but only sketch out the outline of what you want to happen and then let them happen uncontrolled, unplanned. Stop yourself every time you try to micromanage.
  • Try to stop yourself from building up idealized fantasies in your head about things, but take them as they come. Push the thoughts away and distract yourself when you notice that you’re starting to build up expectations and ideas.
  • Practice letting go of control by letting someone else plan things without your involvement. Daryl took me to Ireland on my birthday last year. I had no idea and it was the most relaxing trip ever, as I hadn’t had any chance to over plan and control.
  • Set your expectations at a realistic level. Don’t expect love, family, friendships, success, etc. to be like it is in movies, on social media, and in fairytales. Remember that life isn’t like that and that those things are illusions.
  • Leave room for others to have their own ideas and expectations. Find compromises and be open to change and newness.
  • Make the best of a disappointing situation by looking for whatever positives you can find. Turn it around, make it yours and radically accept that things are out of your control. Do the best you can with what you’ve got.
  • Don’t try to predict the outcome of every situation. It’s okay to somewhat prepare, but be aware that you can’t prepare for everything. Things will happen that aren’t planned or ideal, and no matter how much you prepare, this will always be the case.

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4 thoughts on “The Big Blog Post on: Expectation vs. Reality”

  1. steph says:
    27/01/2018 at 15:44

    such a good reminder to not build up your expectations too much. i have a control issue too! and it usually ends in disappointment. it is better to just go with the flow. thank you for sharing and i love your photos.

    Reply
    1. HoneyAimee says:
      04/02/2018 at 17:49

      Thank you so much! Really glad you liked it! <3

      Reply
  2. zennah94 says:
    16/01/2018 at 22:29

    This article is so relatable it almost feels like i’m reading about myself! i love your writing and i would love to see you write more about anxiety, definitely going to try out your tips & make some attempts to not be such a control freak 😛

    Reply
    1. HoneyAimee says:
      18/01/2018 at 19:03

      Thank you! I’ll definitely be adding a post about anxiety soon and hope I have some useful tips 😀

      Reply

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With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

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Happy Monday! 🍁 . . I've spent the weekend gett Happy Monday! 🍁
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I've spent the weekend getting things out to finally decorate for autumn. I'm later than usual as I have no energy. My hormones are whack and I've been sick several times a day. My hair is falling out again, but that was expected. Daryl's going to try and cut it short, as I can't go outside to see my hairdresser. I'm sure I'll end up with something...interesting 🙈 I'm just so tired so we've been binging Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's a show that I missed back in the 90s, and it's great for the season. Back then I was too hooked on Dawson's Creek to care about anything else. 😂 What's your current binge? ❤️ #teampaceyforever
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Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've a I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've actually sold half of them, but I've kept all my favorites. I love being able to turn myself into whoever I visualize in the stories I tell with my photos. It's not always a ginger girl that I want. 😄
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long h I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long hair for my post partum hair loss period. It's already looking terrible, thin and dry. What do you guys think?
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One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new home when the pandemic hit, so we've had to put that on pause for now, but the dream is to live near the city, but in nature. One thing I envy is when I see people who have direct access to a forest or a lovely garden, and I very much want my baby to grow up having that. 😍
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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PS. This pic is not from Frilandsmuseet. .
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One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper u Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper update, and I have so many thoughts to share that I would normally have shared over the course of weeks. This photo is an oldie from a wonderful outing with Daryl - before my hair loss, before my weight loss, before getting pregnant and before lockdown. It seems like a million years ago. It's an important picture to me because it's ordinary. No real posing or planning, no fancy dresses, just me and Daryl out on our bikes exploring a new area. .
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Days like these are far away and this version of myself is long gone. I'm in a cocoon now, and soon I can call myself a post partum butterfly for the rest of my life. My hair loss will come back, I'll have to lose weight again, my body will be broken and need mending, time and rest, my mind will have to get used to a completely new life, and most important of all, I'll have a tiny new human to take care of who'll be dependant on me and her dad. .
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It's strange to be in this period of transition, sharing my body and heart with this little being in my belly, while at the same time the world around me is also changing. Nothing is certain anymore and the future is completely unpredictable. .
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This is a time of change for me, and I've never been good with change. Not being able to take my photos has also been difficult, as it's something I'm passionate about and didn't expect to have to give up so soon. But, the thing I keep reminding myself of is, that life IS change. Nothing ever stays the same, and wouldn't it be boring if it did? I don't know what's going to happen down the road, but I know that I'm with the most loving caring man I could ever dream of and that we're finally going to have the little baby girl we've been imagining for so so long, and I absolutely can't wait. Four more weeks folks! And we still don't have a name 😂 Last chance to suggest one in the comments! ❤️ .
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With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

#happyhalloween #phantommanor #disneylandparis #spookyseason #hauntedhouse #kodak #1992
Happy Monday! 🍁 . . I've spent the weekend gett Happy Monday! 🍁
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I've spent the weekend getting things out to finally decorate for autumn. I'm later than usual as I have no energy. My hormones are whack and I've been sick several times a day. My hair is falling out again, but that was expected. Daryl's going to try and cut it short, as I can't go outside to see my hairdresser. I'm sure I'll end up with something...interesting 🙈 I'm just so tired so we've been binging Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's a show that I missed back in the 90s, and it's great for the season. Back then I was too hooked on Dawson's Creek to care about anything else. 😂 What's your current binge? ❤️ #teampaceyforever
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#fallvibes #fromthegarden #artofvisuals #nature_obsession #natureaddict #autumncolors #botanicalpickmeup #quietinthewild #gifted #thatsdarling #gingerhair #vintageinspired #90sbaby #anneofgreengables #gingerhair #gingergirl #fallishere #autumnvibes🍁 #falliscoming
Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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We're still debating whether or not to even share our baby's name outside our circle of family and friends. Social media culture is really not made for respecting a child's privacy, and it's difficult to decide when to share and when not to. I'm curious how you all feel about our current share-all culture? I'm a very open person so it's a new dilemma for me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 
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Anyway, hope you are all well and I'm glad to be updating a bit more now. I'm reading messages soon, but I'm having some pains in my joints so typing is difficult. ❤️
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I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've a I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've actually sold half of them, but I've kept all my favorites. I love being able to turn myself into whoever I visualize in the stories I tell with my photos. It's not always a ginger girl that I want. 😄
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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What do you mommies out there do? How do you juggle it all? ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #fairytale #firsttimemom #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #wiglife #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #vintageinspiredfashion
I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long h I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long hair for my post partum hair loss period. It's already looking terrible, thin and dry. What do you guys think?
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#hairloss #telogeneffluvium #mentalhealth #redhead #curlygirl #mymentalhealthjourney #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #vintagestyle #postpartumhairloss
One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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#slowliving #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #aseasonalshift #fox #autumngirl #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #myseasonalstyle #myseasonalstory #igers_copenhagen #frodobaggins #liveauthentic #nordic #earthytones #lordoftherings #frodo #slowandsimpledays #inspiredbynature_ #alliseeispretty #calm_collected #seeingthepretty #beautyyouseek #theslowdowncollective #gloomandglow #myeverydaymagic #beautyofstillmoments
Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new home when the pandemic hit, so we've had to put that on pause for now, but the dream is to live near the city, but in nature. One thing I envy is when I see people who have direct access to a forest or a lovely garden, and I very much want my baby to grow up having that. 😍
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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Do you have a place like this that just got stuck in your heart to the point where you can't imagine not having it in your life?
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PS. This pic is not from Frilandsmuseet. .
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#farmhousehome #farmhouseinspired #styleinfluencers #fashioninfluencers #thehappygardeninglife #hairinspo #inspire_me_home_decor #interiorinspo #interiorstyling #interiorstyle #nothingisordinary #pursuepretty #thatauthenthicfeeling #thehappynow
One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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What things from your childhoods stand out the most as happy memories? ❤️ .
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#lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper u Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper update, and I have so many thoughts to share that I would normally have shared over the course of weeks. This photo is an oldie from a wonderful outing with Daryl - before my hair loss, before my weight loss, before getting pregnant and before lockdown. It seems like a million years ago. It's an important picture to me because it's ordinary. No real posing or planning, no fancy dresses, just me and Daryl out on our bikes exploring a new area. .
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Days like these are far away and this version of myself is long gone. I'm in a cocoon now, and soon I can call myself a post partum butterfly for the rest of my life. My hair loss will come back, I'll have to lose weight again, my body will be broken and need mending, time and rest, my mind will have to get used to a completely new life, and most important of all, I'll have a tiny new human to take care of who'll be dependant on me and her dad. .
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It's strange to be in this period of transition, sharing my body and heart with this little being in my belly, while at the same time the world around me is also changing. Nothing is certain anymore and the future is completely unpredictable. .
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This is a time of change for me, and I've never been good with change. Not being able to take my photos has also been difficult, as it's something I'm passionate about and didn't expect to have to give up so soon. But, the thing I keep reminding myself of is, that life IS change. Nothing ever stays the same, and wouldn't it be boring if it did? I don't know what's going to happen down the road, but I know that I'm with the most loving caring man I could ever dream of and that we're finally going to have the little baby girl we've been imagining for so so long, and I absolutely can't wait. Four more weeks folks! And we still don't have a name 😂 Last chance to suggest one in the comments! ❤️ .
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#socialdistancing #changeyourmindset #lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ri A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ring that I always wear was stuck on my finger. Another wonderful side effect of pregnancy. I managed to get it off and put it away, but as it is very special to me it was a hard pill to swallow. I don't really wear jewelry so when I do it is only something really special. .
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In these days of quarantine I've been wearing my flower rings from @goodafternine a lot more, since I can't get out to see real flowers. It's been cheering me up, so I'm sad that water retention is going to ruin that. Also, you should see my feet! They look like they were injected with botox 😂
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@goodafternine is one of the wonderful companies that will be affected by the quarantine, but they still ship out and they still make the happiest accessories that reminds you of spring and color. This is one of my favorite small companies which is why I want to share a picture of my favorite ring from them that I took last year when they gifted me my four favorites. I hope you love them as much as I do. ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #jewelrygram #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #purplehair #rainbowflowers #gifted #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #happyrgirl #besthair  #fairytale #pastelhair #lilachair #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #daisy #goodafternine #gfndarlings
Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷 . . Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷
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Last year I dressed up as the Easter bunny, much to the delight of the children that walked past me on the street. Once my baby's born Dina from @feltstream.dina.ivanova will help me make sure that I can turn into all the fairytale animals that my little girl will come across. I'm especially looking forward to being a bear from Goldie Locks and the Wolf from red Riding Hood. My girl will get to be the heroine 😄 What other fairy tale animals should Dina and I plan out?
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Also remember that during the quarantine days, it's important to support all our favorite small businesses so they can make it through this chaos. I'll keep sharing them and I hope we can all support each other and get safely to the other side. ✨✨✨
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#sondeflor #gifted #supportsmallbusinesses #sondeflorclassicdress #linen #linendress #easter #peterrabbit #beatrixpotter #easterbunny #lilac #vintagestyle #vintageinspired #redhead #redhair #gingerhair #slowliving #alittlebeautyeveryday #everydaypoetry #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #gingergirl #auburnhair #gingerlove #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #thatsdarlingmovement #mysondeflor
I think it's time I reveal the gender of my little I think it's time I reveal the gender of my little one, don't you? It's been so hard keeping it a secret as I keep messing up the pronouns in my posts, so now I want to finally get it out there.  I'm having a...
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Baby girl! 🦊
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I've chosen to share this news by showing you a baby brand that I absolutely love! I'm not a "blue is for boys, pink is for girls " person, and the collection from @littlesavagedk is just perfect for what I want for my baby. It's sustainable organic cotton with zero toxins. It's a recycling brand with a focus on leaving a small footprint. This set was sent to me as a gift and I'm so happy that I'll now get to work with a small climate focused brand and can raise my daughter to love and take care of the beautiful planet we inhabit. ❤️
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#gifted #ad #reklame @elephantsandantspr #littlesavagedk #lillesavagecph #delebørs #comfortbabyline #organiccotton #pregnant #pregnancy #babybump #family #weekspregnant #motherhood #pregnantbelly #preggo #darlingscapes #myeverydaymagic #genderreveal
With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pi With Halloween upon us, I wanted to share these pictures that I took on my first visit to Disneyland back in 1992. I fell in love with Phantom Manor (Haunted Mansion for you in the US) from the moment I saw it towering up in front of me. I was supposed to go to the park last October, but my pregnancy prevented me from making the trip. Thankfully I have a lifetime of pictures to keep me in a lovely spooky mood for the season. Happy Halloween everyone! 🎃

PS. No filter. Just taken by an old Kodak camera back in the day. 😄

#happyhalloween #phantommanor #disneylandparis #spookyseason #hauntedhouse #kodak #1992
Happy Monday! 🍁 . . I've spent the weekend gett Happy Monday! 🍁
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I've spent the weekend getting things out to finally decorate for autumn. I'm later than usual as I have no energy. My hormones are whack and I've been sick several times a day. My hair is falling out again, but that was expected. Daryl's going to try and cut it short, as I can't go outside to see my hairdresser. I'm sure I'll end up with something...interesting 🙈 I'm just so tired so we've been binging Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's a show that I missed back in the 90s, and it's great for the season. Back then I was too hooked on Dawson's Creek to care about anything else. 😂 What's your current binge? ❤️ #teampaceyforever
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#fallvibes #fromthegarden #artofvisuals #nature_obsession #natureaddict #autumncolors #botanicalpickmeup #quietinthewild #gifted #thatsdarling #gingerhair #vintageinspired #90sbaby #anneofgreengables #gingerhair #gingergirl #fallishere #autumnvibes🍁 #falliscoming
Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can pos Thank goodness I have lots of old photos I can post until I'm able to take new ones 🥴 It's now my favorite season and even motherhood tiredness can't keep me away! If all goes as planned we'll be autumn decorating on Sunday. 🙌🏻 We're having baby girl's naming day on Saturday online. It's odd having a celebration like that on camera, but we're going to make the best of it and have planned games and cute floral decorations. 🍁
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We're still debating whether or not to even share our baby's name outside our circle of family and friends. Social media culture is really not made for respecting a child's privacy, and it's difficult to decide when to share and when not to. I'm curious how you all feel about our current share-all culture? I'm a very open person so it's a new dilemma for me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 
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Anyway, hope you are all well and I'm glad to be updating a bit more now. I'm reading messages soon, but I'm having some pains in my joints so typing is difficult. ❤️
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#nature_obsession #artofvisuals #nature_seekers #capturequiet #gingergirl #darlingmovement #gingerhair #natureaddict #myquietbeauty #aseasonalshift #thatsdarling #bookishgirl #vintageinspired #vintagestyle #darlingscapes #quietinthewild #myseasonalstory #littleredridinghood #ridinghood #fairytale #redhood #fairy #redhead #wildflowers
I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've a I haven't worn any of my wigs in aaages and I've actually sold half of them, but I've kept all my favorites. I love being able to turn myself into whoever I visualize in the stories I tell with my photos. It's not always a ginger girl that I want. 😄
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I have no freaking idea how I'm going to toggle my photography with having a baby and maybe finally getting a job now that my bipolar is under control. It won't be until after my maternity leave of course, but I always like planning a bit ahead. Ideally I'd want to stay home with my baby until she reaches kindergarten age but I don't know how that would work financially. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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What do you mommies out there do? How do you juggle it all? ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #fairytale #firsttimemom #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #wiglife #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #vintageinspiredfashion
I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long h I'll soon have to decide if I want short or long hair for my post partum hair loss period. It's already looking terrible, thin and dry. What do you guys think?
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#hairloss #telogeneffluvium #mentalhealth #redhead #curlygirl #mymentalhealthjourney #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #vintagestyle #postpartumhairloss
One thing that's been very interesting for me thro One thing that's been very interesting for me through this quarantine, is how little I have shopped. I simply haven't felt like it, and most things suddenly seem pointless and I don't get why I wanted to spend money on them before. .
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I've bought things for the baby of course, but I've kept it to necessities and a few stuffed animals. She has more than enough clothes thanks to Daryl's mom and we actually don't have room for them all. We're still in our one bedroom apartment so that also limits our need to shop. But things for myself just isn't a priority and not because of the baby. I'm not dressing up, I'm not wearing makeup, I'm not changing decor (and I don't need to). .
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It's been good for my wallet and my conscience and I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I didn't even want anything for my birthday, but Daryl bought me a belly band, that I have yet to wear as I don't go out. I'll try it soon though. Despite my strong konmari convictions, I have been tempted in the past to buy a lot of things that I really didn't need and now that I'm aware of how much that has been a part of a sort of addiction cycle, I do think I can break it. 🙌🏻 Have you guys felt less like shopping since the lockdown?
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#slowliving #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #aseasonalshift #fox #autumngirl #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #myseasonalstyle #myseasonalstory #igers_copenhagen #frodobaggins #liveauthentic #nordic #earthytones #lordoftherings #frodo #slowandsimpledays #inspiredbynature_ #alliseeispretty #calm_collected #seeingthepretty #beautyyouseek #theslowdowncollective #gloomandglow #myeverydaymagic #beautyofstillmoments
Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new Daryl and I were in the midst of looking for a new home when the pandemic hit, so we've had to put that on pause for now, but the dream is to live near the city, but in nature. One thing I envy is when I see people who have direct access to a forest or a lovely garden, and I very much want my baby to grow up having that. 😍
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I personally grew up in a small city apartment with my single parent mom, but she always made sure that I got to be outside in nature. It's why I love @frilandsmuseet as much as I do. We'd go out there every summer from I was a baby, and we'd picnic and I'd play around in the grass while she would make me a dandelion flower crown. 🌼 I wish I had the pictures so I could show you! It's definitely what started my love of nature early on and I can't wait to take my baby there when she's old enough and it's safe. 🙌🏻
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Do you have a place like this that just got stuck in your heart to the point where you can't imagine not having it in your life?
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PS. This pic is not from Frilandsmuseet. .
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#farmhousehome #farmhouseinspired #styleinfluencers #fashioninfluencers #thehappygardeninglife #hairinspo #inspire_me_home_decor #interiorinspo #interiorstyling #interiorstyle #nothingisordinary #pursuepretty #thatauthenthicfeeling #thehappynow
One thing that I keep laughing about is that when One thing that I keep laughing about is that when the baby comes, I get to do EVERYTHING again. I never thought about it much before, but now I realize that I'm heading into childhood, but on the other side.
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I'll get to teach her so many things, introduce her to the world and to everything that I love and want for her. I'll see her have an ice cream for the first time, I'll teach her how to hold a pencil, I'll tell her the story of Little Red Riding Hood for the very first time. I'll buy her her first bike and I'll take her to all my favorite places. 🙌🏻
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I'm about to embark on a trip not just into the future but also into the past. I've been revisiting my memories of my own childhood and have picked out special memories I want to turn into my own thing with my baby, like when my mom would conjure up Kinder Eggs from behind my ear, or when she'd turn my wash cloth into a bunny to entertain me at bath time. It's fun to get ready and I'm so excited! Daryl can't wait to read books and watch Doctor Who with her, and he's already planning for them to build spaceships together. 🙈 It's going to be so great! .
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#lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper u Hey everyone! I thought it was time for a proper update, and I have so many thoughts to share that I would normally have shared over the course of weeks. This photo is an oldie from a wonderful outing with Daryl - before my hair loss, before my weight loss, before getting pregnant and before lockdown. It seems like a million years ago. It's an important picture to me because it's ordinary. No real posing or planning, no fancy dresses, just me and Daryl out on our bikes exploring a new area. .
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Days like these are far away and this version of myself is long gone. I'm in a cocoon now, and soon I can call myself a post partum butterfly for the rest of my life. My hair loss will come back, I'll have to lose weight again, my body will be broken and need mending, time and rest, my mind will have to get used to a completely new life, and most important of all, I'll have a tiny new human to take care of who'll be dependant on me and her dad. .
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It's strange to be in this period of transition, sharing my body and heart with this little being in my belly, while at the same time the world around me is also changing. Nothing is certain anymore and the future is completely unpredictable. .
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This is a time of change for me, and I've never been good with change. Not being able to take my photos has also been difficult, as it's something I'm passionate about and didn't expect to have to give up so soon. But, the thing I keep reminding myself of is, that life IS change. Nothing ever stays the same, and wouldn't it be boring if it did? I don't know what's going to happen down the road, but I know that I'm with the most loving caring man I could ever dream of and that we're finally going to have the little baby girl we've been imagining for so so long, and I absolutely can't wait. Four more weeks folks! And we still don't have a name 😂 Last chance to suggest one in the comments! ❤️ .
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#socialdistancing #changeyourmindset #lockdownstories #transition #pregnant #thatsdarling #quietinthewild #gingergirl #vintageinspired #aseasonalshift #bookishgirl #darlingmovement #myseasonalstyle #seasonspoetry #ofwhimsicalmoments #nature_seekers #natureaddict
A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ri A few days ago I realized that my grandmother's ring that I always wear was stuck on my finger. Another wonderful side effect of pregnancy. I managed to get it off and put it away, but as it is very special to me it was a hard pill to swallow. I don't really wear jewelry so when I do it is only something really special. .
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In these days of quarantine I've been wearing my flower rings from @goodafternine a lot more, since I can't get out to see real flowers. It's been cheering me up, so I'm sad that water retention is going to ruin that. Also, you should see my feet! They look like they were injected with botox 😂
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@goodafternine is one of the wonderful companies that will be affected by the quarantine, but they still ship out and they still make the happiest accessories that reminds you of spring and color. This is one of my favorite small companies which is why I want to share a picture of my favorite ring from them that I took last year when they gifted me my four favorites. I hope you love them as much as I do. ❤️
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#myeverydaymagic #verilymoment  #the_gallery_of_magic #dreaminginpictures #aseasonalshift #capturequiet #nothingisordinary #thecreativefolk #jewelrygram #seasonspoetry #seekinspirecreate #thehappynow #mymagicalmorning #purplehair #rainbowflowers #gifted #everydaypoetry #alittlebeautyeveryday #aseasonalshift #happyrgirl #besthair  #fairytale #pastelhair #lilachair #springflowers #myseasonalstyle #thatsdarling #daisy #goodafternine #gfndarlings
Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷 . . Checking in to say Happy Easter! 🐰🐣🌷
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Last year I dressed up as the Easter bunny, much to the delight of the children that walked past me on the street. Once my baby's born Dina from @feltstream.dina.ivanova will help me make sure that I can turn into all the fairytale animals that my little girl will come across. I'm especially looking forward to being a bear from Goldie Locks and the Wolf from red Riding Hood. My girl will get to be the heroine 😄 What other fairy tale animals should Dina and I plan out?
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Also remember that during the quarantine days, it's important to support all our favorite small businesses so they can make it through this chaos. I'll keep sharing them and I hope we can all support each other and get safely to the other side. ✨✨✨
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#sondeflor #gifted #supportsmallbusinesses #sondeflorclassicdress #linen #linendress #easter #peterrabbit #beatrixpotter #easterbunny #lilac #vintagestyle #vintageinspired #redhead #redhair #gingerhair #slowliving #alittlebeautyeveryday #everydaypoetry #nothingisordinary #aquietstyle #gingergirl #auburnhair #gingerlove #quietinthewild #thatsdarling #thatsdarlingmovement #mysondeflor
I think it's time I reveal the gender of my little I think it's time I reveal the gender of my little one, don't you? It's been so hard keeping it a secret as I keep messing up the pronouns in my posts, so now I want to finally get it out there.  I'm having a...
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Baby girl! 🦊
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I've chosen to share this news by showing you a baby brand that I absolutely love! I'm not a "blue is for boys, pink is for girls " person, and the collection from @littlesavagedk is just perfect for what I want for my baby. It's sustainable organic cotton with zero toxins. It's a recycling brand with a focus on leaving a small footprint. This set was sent to me as a gift and I'm so happy that I'll now get to work with a small climate focused brand and can raise my daughter to love and take care of the beautiful planet we inhabit. ❤️
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#gifted #ad #reklame @elephantsandantspr #littlesavagedk #lillesavagecph #delebørs #comfortbabyline #organiccotton #pregnant #pregnancy #babybump #family #weekspregnant #motherhood #pregnantbelly #preggo #darlingscapes #myeverydaymagic #genderreveal
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